I don't know if this is something weird about me or not, but as an adult, I sometimes find it not so easy to make new friends. When we were kids, you just walked up to another kid and said something like, "Wanna be friends?" and the two of you were off climbing monkey bars and swinging on the swings.
Even as a young, single adult, it wasn't that difficult to make a new friend and get a date. But sometimes, as a married--with-a-child professional adult with a full-time job and other responsibilities, there often doesn't seem to be the right time to say, "Wanna be friends?" Maybe because as adults we're more concerned with the possibility of rejection. As a kid, if the other kid said, "No!" We'd just go climb the monkey bars or swing on the swings anyway. Nowadays, we're afraid we'll get turned down if we try to make friends with someone new.
But, a letter can help break the ice and soften the potential rejection.
Today, write a letter to a person that you'd like to start up or rekindle a friendship with. Now, I'm not suggesting anyone be a stalker. But, if there's a person that you really seem to have a lot in common with, jot a little note suggesting that the two of you meet for coffee or take an art class or have a playdate for the kids, whatever works in your life. Maybe offer up a date to meet but emphasize your flexibility to meet another time if necessary. Provide your email address or telephone number so that your new friend can contact you.
Letter writing topic for January 7, 2011
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